Usually from what I have seen the better, more intelligent and married older ones are probably bigger on flowers than the average single or married American person. There are also a lot more places selling cheaper flowers here so its easier to be romantic. But mostly that is with the ones who are already married... (and well trained..)
If the average guy cares enough about you to leave his computer games and take you out somewhere to watch movies and drink tea, you probably are doing all right.
Of course if when you drink tea alone, you are both reading magazines and not at least discussing things in the magazines that might be a bad sign... but it is normal (HERE) to go to a tea shop and to mutually read magazines silently.
You can try to ask questions to him about different interesting things you see in your magazine and peer over at his and talk about things you see. If he acts ogrelike and still refuses to engage in any conversation at all you may need to try to find someone a bit more sociable.
Another interesting observation I have is couples who bring their notebook computers to the teahouses and who then surf the net. I suppose if you are both instant messaging each other its ok, some people are more comfortable with written form... but it is a weird thing to me.
The young university aged Taiwanese like to travel together in large groups to mingle. Generally they go to easily accessible tourist locations or markets or just wander in groups nearby their schools to 7-11's just like north america. This is a fairly healthy thing, except for the tendency of many to smoke at an early age. I tend to feel a bit disgusted every time I see an 8 year kid smoking on the road... (sorry, must limit rant) This activity tends to happen at pre-bushiban supper times, breaktimes and post bushiban.
(one reason why the kids here want to go to bushibans in spite of the irrelevance of english and homework to them- their friends are all there too... including the cute boys/girls..)
Online games tend to be where many modern Taiwanese boys and girls hook up, apparently. This is an easier, safer method to mentally connect to people with similar interests prior to face to face meeting, but when the dreaded first contact time arrives, you can expect many embarrasing potential situations.
Many (very traditional family based ones) lack the knowledge of how to pursue a woman. They grew up in a culture where mommy and daddy arrange everything for them, and may not wish to put any effort into relationships outside of financial business-type ones. These are a good type to avoid unless all you want is a cash source for your youth-time (if you are a female below age 30) and you are quite good at being decietful and gaming your relationships along. (of course if you are this type of female- you also have issues) These males tend to be the type who drop their women after they reach a certain age... I call these the worker drones, doomed to eternally be alone. Most Taiwanese men under the age of 40 dont fit this stereotype, but many over that age do fit that stereotype. The women who do this style either move on to being older underpaid worker drones, or entrapping a more foolish one to marry and then sucessfully sue them after, or just go on to be KTV madams after doing some requisite time in the trenches- or poorly ventilated couches as it were)
From all I have gleaned the Taiwanese males (both older and younger) prefer extremely skinny, quiet, submissive types of females. Sorry, it makes them sound bad, but it is what I have observed and been told directly. (Western men arn't any different but the degree of what constitutes 'fat' appears to differ greatly here than from western standards which I believe are a bit more forgiving generally.)
There is a lot of pressure on women here to spend huge amounts of cash to 'look pretty' and many mothers appear to tell their daughters that 'it doesnt matter if you are smart, as long as you are beautiful' which is a rather reprehensible thing to do to your daughter. (this is taken from a direct observation of what a mother said to an ill-performing female student at my school. In other words- its ok to fail for the rest of your life. Don't try. A poor lesson indeed!) This attitude does still prevail in much of society in Taiwan and is quite blatent on TV. (because it encourages stupid people to waste money on unattainable ideals and to make their problems worse by purchasing products that worsen already existing imperfections) Yet in spite of this emphasis on beauty over brains the traditional males would hand over the family budget to the females !?!! Strange method to me.
back on topic:
In short, tea/coffee drinking, restaurants, shopping at night markets and walking about and perhaps if he has richer parents or a good job, driving in the car to scenic locations is what a normal Taiwanese male does with a female.
Other less apparent, more kinky tendancies tend to be S and M domination as an undercurrent to the psyche. The older Taiwanese males appear to enjoy suffering and pain, as why else would they work the hours they do and expect their younger co-workers to do the same even though the economic situation has changed significantly? (and incidentally the entire situation with China tends to reinforce my theory that older Taiwanese males in general tend to love being the gimp and dont wish to end it. But thats just a theory. I have no evidence outside of vaugue hints on television and weirder tendancies/preferences that occasionally burst out in conversations at times...)
Anyways, my silly, ranty, potentially offensive theories aside, there are many Taiwanese men who are responsible and emotionally available who will treat women well. Like any country. It takes some shopping to find, however. If you always take the first thing that comes along and trust all of your hopes in that, you will find yourself always disappointed. In any country.